When we judge, we create our story, not the real story

To judge is to attach a feeling to an observation; to observe is to bear witness to an event without assigning a label “good” or “bad,” “right” or “wrong,” to the observation.

“I know what they’re going through,” “I know what they’re thinking,” I know what I’d do in their situation,” “they must be going through hell,” “how could they be so cruel,” “they must be happy or sad,” or “why do they act that way,” are typical judgement we all make, but that’s our imaginations working overtime. We couldn’t possibly know any of that information unless the people going through those events told us, and even then we could misinterpret their words or actions.

When we judge, we are creating our own version of the real story, it’s not based on facts but on our own perception of events. Although most people believe the world is a more interesting place because people judge people, places and events because if there was no judgement the majority of the world’s population would be silent; or as Eleanor Roosevelt put it;

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”

Only the genius among us has the ability to observe without judgement and realise that is exactly the way things are meant to be, “nothing more, nothing less.”