Sexologist Megan Stubbs, EED, relationships expert and author Athol Kay, and sex educator Joan Price say that in addition to doing the dirty deed, there are certain body parts, moves, positions, and more that drive men insane in the sack and require zero blowing whatsoever:

1. Get completely naked more often.

Despite the common belief that sex is a nighttime activity you usually do in the dark, sexperts say you shouldn't be so quick to flip the lights off if you really want to get him going. The truth is, according to Stubbs, even as you get older, he still gets turned on by the entire naked package. She says that especially as guys age, they are not really concerned with your stomach rolls, bumps, or other parts of your body that you consider to be imperfections—he would much rather have sex with the lights on because he absolutely loves seeing everything. "Guys are visually motivated and stimulated, so they want to see you as much as possible," said Stubbs. Plus, letting yourself go and allowing him to see your entire body will help increase his own #dadbod confidence too, Stubbs says.

2. Focus your attention on more than just down there.

Even though it may have been just about paying attention to his package in his early 20s, Price says that other underrated areas are especially important for a man as he gets older. When men get into their 40s, it can become harder for them to have lasting erections, says Price. To combat that problem, Price believes in making more of an effort to create real intimacy with him through exploration of other body parts. The slow gradual build will take the pressure off of him and help him eventually reach an orgasm. We might graze over his inner thighs, neck, calves, and nipples while having foreplay or sex, but Price finds that licking and touching these erogenous zones for a longer period of time can actually build a greater sense of closeness for him, which is super important for maintaining a strong sex life in your 30s, 40s, and beyond.

3. Touch yourself frequently in front of him.

Whether they're 25 or 45, men love being taught how to do new things—welp, inside the bedroom, at least. Even though he's not getting touched, as Stubbs points out, masturbating in front of him is actually a win-win situation for him, too. Not only will you obviously be enjoying yourself, but he'll love being in the front-row seat while you excite yourself in different ways and use that to pleasure himself. Basically, you two will feed off of each others' excitement which will make everything feel like new again.

4. Get more comfy with initiating.

With time, it's easy for a couple to get into a monotonous cycle of only one person initiating sex. But, really, he wishes nothing more but for you to show off your inner sex tiger when he least expects it. "One of the biggest points of confusion between men and women is sexual initiation," says Kay. "Show him exactly what you are looking for. Men are always looking for a big sexual response from the woman; if he does something great, let him know and he'll love that." Yes, we have been trained since day one that a guy is usually the one who initiates. But men secretly love it when you go against what is expected, take charge, and show him that you want him really, really badly.

5. Prostate play.

Okay, okay this is not something for everyone, but(t) stimulating his prostate is something he might not even know he wants from you, but totally does. If you and your hubbie are feeling extra kinky one night, Price says that every man has extremely pleasurable nerve endings in their anus that can lead to intense orgasms for him. Gently touching him with a finger there is a good way to get him comfortable with the idea. Once he gets over the fact that you are essentially, well, poking him in the butt, he'll most likely go crazy over the new sensation and want more and more.

6. More cowgirl, less missionary.

No, it's not just because he wants a break from all the thrusting (although that is probably a part of it, if we're being honest). A recent study proved that men who watch porn concentrate on the face of the woman more than their genitals or breasts, which could explain why men like the cowgirl position so much—it allows them to see the genuine pleasure through your facial expressions, says Kay. "Men enjoy being on the bottom because they have two free hands to play with your breasts and they get to watch you and make eye contact," he said.

7. Give him lingering thoughts before foreplay begins.You probably know already that you can use dirty talk to get him fantasizing about play time long before you even plant the first kiss on him. But the million dollar question still remains after all this time: What's the absolute best way to send that kinky message? "Leave sexy little notes in your partner's pants pocket or whisper dirty little nothings while waiting at the checkout lane in the grocery store," said Stubbs. Receiving these dirty thoughts in unexpected, not-so-sexy places will show him that no matter what the circumstances are and how old he is you're still super turned on by him and crave his sex, something that will do nothing but good things for his confidence.

8. Personalize your dirty talk.

He already gets excited when you whisper naughty things in his ear, but you can easily crank it up, like, ten notches by saying his first name in bed, according to Stubbs. Why? It helps them build even more confidence with what they're doing and, like a compliment and positive feedback, boosts their ego and makes them feel especially reaffirmed."It's best to personalize things to reassure them that that's what you want," said Stubbs. "Say his name or a pet name, that's amazing for guys."

9. Touch them like you mean it.

Next time he's on top of you, pull him closer to you and hold him more tightly against you. Kay says the increased muscle tension creates a greater sense or arousal for him. "In his mind, he's going to think that she is pulling him closer because she is really into it, which will give him permission to completely let go and be even more into it," Kay said. "There's this misconception that guys have that women are fragile little eggs that can be broken during sex, but if we can use a more physical touch, that will let him know that he can kick things up a lot."

10. Stop sweating small stuff.

This is probably stating the obvious, but a guy really doesn't care all that much if your bra and panties match perfectly. More than an expensive corset or a fancy lace thong, men love the woman underneath who exudes confidence. The best way to do this, according to Stubbs, is to go for what you want without any regrets or hesitation. "It doesn't matter if you're in workout clothes, all sweaty, or covered in pasta sauce," Stubbs said. "Don't discount the everyday little things and always go into it enthusiastically. Guys love that."